Who Does God Want Me to Marry?

Christians seem to struggle with the freedoms which God gives them. One such freedom comes within the realm of choosing a spouse. With such a decision, God does not give a specific answer as to individual identity. But the Bible give believers a direct command about the type of person to marry.

The apostle Paul gives us the Biblical command by way of a principle on choosing a spouse.

Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
II Corinthians 6:14 NASB

The principle given by the apostle is not to have intimate relations with a non-believer. An intimate relationship is one in which each party must share core, personal values. Marriage demands the blending of values from both the man and the woman. If the core values from each person within a marriage do not align, the marriage is bound to suffer strain and/or failure.

So from the principle Paul gives, a believer is only allowed by God to marry another believer. This principle may seem unfair or restrictive, but it is for the good of the believer. Should a Christian marry a non-Christian, there is the attempt at joining two people who hold very different core values and very different world views. One person rests his or her eternal security upon Christ for the forgiveness of sin while the other person does not. One person believes God is the ultimate authority while the other does not.

The attempt to join two people with opposing values does not work. There is never a true union between the two. Such a joining is like mixing oil and water, or as Paul writes, light and darkness. No matter how much a couple tries, there is always a definitive separation.

Once the euphoria of finding a “special someone” wanes, and it naturally does, the glue that keeps married people together is their shared, core beliefs. Without a common bond of values, marriages have trouble.

As long as you intend to marry someone (of the opposite sex) who is a believer in Jesus Christ, you have the Biblical freedom to marry. It is also good to marry someone with whom you share other common interests and attractions. But as long as your future spouse is a Christian, you do not sin if you marry,

If you would like more counsel on preparing for marriage, I suggest you get a copy of Biblica Principles for a Great Marriage.

If you are seeking Biblical counsel on marriage, you and your future spouse can take advantage of personal counseling sessions with Pastor Randy Weddle. Just click here.